Second Chances and Damn it's Cold

It looks like eczema might have hit me in the nose.  I'm not sure.  It looks like I got a red spot on my nose and it hurts.  It's sore.  I know my allergies have been acting up with the cold so awesome.  I'm not worried about it but maybe a reminder to set one appointment before the others to deal with my irritated skin.  I didn't notice it until last night and I thought well it's probably allergies, eczema and the fact that it's like 80 below the wind chill factor.  Once again. I get a day off and I'm rewarded with bitter cold.  Screw you mother nature.  We better not have this weather in April.

Corinne had told me and actually sent me the link for someone's facebook page.  I don't remember the nickname I gave for this guy.  His name was Ted.  He reminds me of Ted Cruz so let's go with that.  It's his ex-wife that the link was for.  She got remarried last year and wow.  She looks happy. Made me happy for her seeing it.  Her and her new husband were on the beach and he was dipping her.  I told Corinne if Ted tried that he'd fall over.  He would never do that.  He was too busy criticizing.

I met her a couple of times, seen her more than a few times when she would come in with the kids.  She always looked nervous or pinched in the face.  It was like she was waiting for a bomb to explode.  A 250 pound one named Ted.  Frick and Frack said that when he would call her he would critique her dinners.  I hope his dinners suck more now that she divorced him a few years ago.

She waited until her daughter had started her first semester.  I don't think she waited until the holidays. I could be wrong but Cassie did her homework and told me the details.  I saw a picture of her at the time sitting on steps and looking happy. I thought wow.  She knows how to smile.  

Ted was just a never happy person.  He felt oppressed as a white man.  I knew from him bullying me and cornering me at times that he was probably not a delight at home.  When you treat women like that in the workplace, you got to wonder what life is like at home.  He would always refer to his problems as an excuse for his rudeness.  There was a day I walked by in passing and said something funny to him.  He could be a funny person in a sarcastic way but when he was mad, we all had to pay.  He made a rather rude comment to me and waited for my response.  It was in front of others and I walked away.  He had left for the day and sent me an email where he apologized.  He said he hated that he said what he said but he has problems and sometimes he brings them to work.

What bullshit that is.  If you carry it in with you, so be it.  Nobody has to or should have to pay because you're unhappy.  I unloaded my own problems as well as my mom's about not being financially secure and my worries about her health.  He never replied I never thought how tough life could be for others.  Nah, he said I'll say a prayer for you.

I definitely know why he's alone.  I had to deal with him for like maybe 2 months after he left.  It had been many years.  I saw him at a couple of functions.  Lois asked me why does he look like he's from the 1950s?  Because that's where he wants to be.  I found out that I was getting pulled from the region I was working so I responded to an email he had sent that was work related and said he should be forwarding any emails for me over to Frick.  He said he was sorry he wouldn't be dealing with me and I did what I knew would stop him from emailing me again. I said I was looking forward to getting my covid shot and because I had cancer, I get to go ahead of the line a little bit.

Silence.  I knew it and was totally ok with Ted hiding from that.  He wasn't there when I went through it and I'm so glad he wasn't.  He would have went on about his problems.

I'm so happy for his ex-wife.  Second chances are a beautiful thing.  So is freedom from an asshole like that.