Kind Dads

Yesterday, I noticed a dad and his daughter stopped at a stop sign on my walk.  She was crying and he was consoling her.  I'm not sure how old she was, but the dad had his hand on her back in comfort. I thought it was kind.  I also thought I should mind my business and keep walking.  

I would have never gone biking with my dad and if I did, I would be crying because he'd probably tip over on the bike from having 8 beers beforehand.  He was very good at yelling at people that I worked with if they weren't answering my page calls at Target.  Being warm and fuzzy was not his strong suit.  My other dad, I guess he was the real dad, he was just absent. 

I think that's what made me stare at the daughter and dad. I thought it was nice. I don't know why we ingrain it into everyone's brains that men have to be tough macho dudes.  My dad hit me twice as a kid.  It sucked.  I didn't deserve it.  It wasn't a big deal at the time, but you look back and think, was that necessary?  He moved onto just being rude.  Being a thoughtful and sensitive dad is a good thing and it's a sign of strength.

No matter how indifferent girls act when they're younger, they need their dads.  I so appreciate that dad who showed the love his daughter needed.  It was nice to see.  



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