The week in review - bad nerves and snow

 I don't know why but there's someone I deal with who makes me nervous.  I'm afraid he's going to blow up at me.

I had one stupid incident.  It's not his fault I am the way I am and I might have misinterpreted the anger.  Not sure.  My very first job I got paired up with the most angriest adjuster and when I would make a mistake or if someone he dealt with made a mistake, he would call up and go off on me.  I took it a lot.  I had the occasional crying moment after I got off the phone but it was something I was used to.

It seemed like it happened off and on where someone's anger would just get the best of me.  When I sold shoes, we had a policy of not returning used shoes.  When someone called me one night, I told them our policy.  We were separate from the rest of the store, we fell under a different company.  The store manager on duty came downstairs to scream at me.  It was someone from corporate.  He never even let me say a word at the time.  He reported me to my manager who told him that was our policy.  I wasn't wrong.  I avoided that guy like the plague. 

At one job, I did a lot of the administrative work that involved just typing up letters, reports, miscellaneous stuff.  I had given some work to an account executive who could be very charming.  We used to call him Uncle Dale!  Uncle Dale! when he would come by.  I made a mistake on a letter as he looked at it and in front of two other people, he screamed, Goddamn it! What's wrong with you??!

So yeah, getting screamed at for missing a semi-colon can freaking make you stressed out.  There's just some people who may say something and may not always be happy with you.  I get it.  We make mistakes.  We have bad days and we can't take it personal.

One person who was relatively good to work with sent me an email to let me know that I had not spelled someone's last name with one L instead of two L's.  He said there are several emails with me misspelling this person's name with one L and please correct it.  I had the luxury of going to my room and sitting down for 5 minutes to forget that people are that rude.  I had spent months working on this file and to get chastised like a little kid was humiliating and demeaning. 

We are going through a time where bad behavior is being more and more recognized.  It has an affect on people.  There was someone who zero in on me and be flat out rude when I would ask a question.  One day, I walked away before I finished asking my question, because I had enough of it.  I got an email from him that he was so sorry about how he talked to me and that he had a lot going on in his life.  I didn't share all of my life, but I said I have my own problems and so does my mom.  He loved my mom's peanut butter bars.  He just offered thoughts and prayers.

How about be more thoughtful and mindful of how you talk to people?

This person that I deal with now doesn't really to be so bad.  I kind of like his sense of humor and he tries to help me understand my mistakes which I can appreciate.  I get being not in the best mood all the time. 

Turning your bad mood onto someone else might make you feel better but is ruining someone else's day worth it?  

I don't mind the snow. I just don't want to see it in April.